We are all guilty of creating false narratives and making up those stories in our heads as we consider approaching another couple in the lifestyle. Sometimes we don't even give the other couple a chance because we are certain we know the ending of the story! We convince ourselves that they are out of our league, or they won't find us attractive, or they will probably just reject us. We talk with our friends Andi and Dave from the lifestyle dating site <a href="https://app.doubledatenation.com/" target= "_blank" rel="noopener">Double Date Nation</a> about how we can all recognize when we begin telling our own story and how to intervene to help create the true story!

We are all guilty of creating false narratives and making up those stories in our heads as we consider approaching another couple in the lifestyle. Sometimes we don't even give the other couple a chance because we are certain we know the ending of the story! We convince ourselves that they are out of our league, or they won't find us attractive, or they will probably just reject us. We talk with our friends Andi and Dave from the lifestyle dating site Double Date Nation about how we can all recognize when we begin telling our own story and how to intervene to help create the true story!

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Episode 72: Voices Inside My Head-Don't Be Your Own C***Blocker

In this episode we discuss the issue of 'Kissing and Telling' in the lifestyle. How do you feel about couples sharing personal details about a private play experience? Do you share details with others to include the names of your play partners? Is there ever a good reason to Kiss and Tell? Listen in as we discuss our opinions in the matter!

In this episode we discuss the issue of 'Kissing and Telling' in the lifestyle. How do you feel about couples sharing personal details about a private play experience? Do you share details with others to include the names of your play partners? Is there ever a good reason to Kiss and Tell? Listen in as we discuss our opinions in the matter!

Episode 71: The Kiss and Tell Dilemma

Listen in on our conversation with a resort full of imperfect but beautiful ladies! The ladies of Desire discuss what they've had to realize and overcome in order to enjoy and grow into the lifestyle. Along the way the are discovering real transformation both in themselves and in relationships with their partners.

Listen in on our conversation with a resort full of imperfect but beautiful ladies! The ladies of Desire discuss what they've had to realize and overcome in order to enjoy and grow into the lifestyle. Along the way the are discovering real transformation both in themselves and in relationships with their partners.

Episode 70: Desire 2019- Reflections by the Ladies

We all agree consent is a bedrock principle in the lifestyle but most conversations around this topic focus on verbal consent.  We'll talk about using our words but will also consider two additional dimensions: non-verbal consent (body language) and giving yourself consent.

We all agree consent is a bedrock principle in the lifestyle but most conversations around this topic focus on verbal consent.  We'll talk about using our words but will also consider two additional dimensions: non-verbal consent (body language) and giving yourself consent.

Episode 69: Consent- More Than Words

Topic- Some people are either put off by the term "swinger" or have misperceptions of what it really means today. We've decided to use the term 'Social Sexy' to describe how we view and engage with others in the world of ethical non-monogamy. Mentioned: Our friend "Ess" is a boudoir photographer. Check him out on <a href= "https://www.instagram.com/ess.boudoir/">Instagram</a> and read his recent <a href= "https://wegottathing.com/quick-tips-for-better-intimate-photos/">blog post</a> on our website!

Topic- Some people are either put off by the term "swinger" or have misperceptions of what it really means today. We've decided to use the term 'Social Sexy' to describe how we view and engage with others in the world of ethical non-monogamy. Mentioned: Our friend "Ess" is a boudoir photographer. Check him out on Instagram and read his recent blog post on our website!

Episode 68: The 'Social Sexy' Lifestyle

We discuss identifying red flags in other couples and how to respond when you see them. We also talk about red flags that pop up within your own relationship and how, if left unresolved can lead to you becoming a red flag to other couples. Listen in as we work through one of our own red flags!

We discuss identifying red flags in other couples and how to respond when you see them. We also talk about red flags that pop up within your own relationship and how, if left unresolved can lead to you becoming a red flag to other couples. Listen in as we work through one of our own red flags!

Episode 67: Eyes Wide Open- Lifestyle Red Flags

When first considering reasons for entering the lifestyle making lifelong friends is not normally the goal. But after getting used to connecting with people and having some sexy playtimes we begin to realize how 'human' our lifestyle friends are and how these friendships are sometimes deeper, more meaningful and more real than any we've had before. We talk about our pathway to discovering our tribe in the lifestyle and just how special some of these friendships have become!

When first considering reasons for entering the lifestyle making lifelong friends is not normally the goal. But after getting used to connecting with people and having some sexy playtimes we begin to realize how 'human' our lifestyle friends are and how these friendships are sometimes deeper, more meaningful and more real than any we've had before. We talk about our pathway to discovering our tribe in the lifestyle and just how special some of these friendships have become!

Episode 66: Discovering Your Lifestyle Tribe

Discussion topic: We often focus on rules and guidelines "inside the bedroom" but in this episode we discuss what we consider to be the golden rules of the lifestyle outside of the bedroom. The importance of Confidentiality, Respect and Honesty with ourselves and others should seem evident but in a sex-charged environment they can be easily overlooked and forgotten.

Discussion topic: We often focus on rules and guidelines "inside the bedroom" but in this episode we discuss what we consider to be the golden rules of the lifestyle outside of the bedroom. The importance of Confidentiality, Respect and Honesty with ourselves and others should seem evident but in a sex-charged environment they can be easily overlooked and forgotten.

Episode 65: The Golden Rules of the Lifestyle

Join our conversation with Bomber and The Belle from the <a href="https://soundcloud.com/bomber-belle" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Black & Kinky Podcast</a> as we discuss the issue of race in the lifestyle today. As a black couple they share their perspective, experience, opinions and challenges around meeting and connecting with those of a different race.

Join our conversation with Bomber and The Belle from the Black & Kinky Podcast as we discuss the issue of race in the lifestyle today. As a black couple they share their perspective, experience, opinions and challenges around meeting and connecting with those of a different race.

Episode 64: Race in the Lifestyle

In this episode we discuss what "chemistry" in the lifestyle means to us and how it's different from attraction.  Is chemistry between others instantaneous? Can chemistry with others fade over time? How is chemistry with lifestyle friends different from the chemistry between me and my spouse or partner? Listen in for our answers to these questions and hear a couple of sexy snapshots from us and some listeners! Join our <a href= "https://courses.wegottathing.com/membership-landing-page" target= "_blank" rel="noopener">We Gotta Thing members</a> only community Visit our <a href="https://wegottathing.com/all-events/" target= "_blank" rel="noopener">website</a> and learn more about our upcoming <a href="https://wegottathing.com/all-events/" target= "_blank" rel="noopener">WGT events</a>

In this episode we discuss what "chemistry" in the lifestyle means to us and how it's different from attraction.  Is chemistry between others instantaneous? Can chemistry with others fade over time? How is chemistry with lifestyle friends different from the chemistry between me and my spouse or partner? Listen in for our answers to these questions and hear a couple of sexy snapshots from us and some listeners! Join our We Gotta Thing members only community Visit our website and learn more about our upcoming WGT events

Episode 63: Lifestyle Chemistry 101

In this episode we talk with the creators of the brand new lifestyle website <a href="https://doubledatenation.com/" target= "_blank" rel="noopener">Double Date Nation</a>, Dave and Andi.  The four of us discuss our ideas and share our opinions on how best to create and optimize your lifestyle website profile to be most effective. We also interview them about their new site to find out how it's different from others and why they believe another lifestyle dating site is necessary. To try <a href="https://doubledatenation.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Double Date Nation</a> free for three months <a href="https://doubledatenation.com/" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">sign up here</a> and use promo code: WGTPC Watch Dave and Andi on their YouTube channel: <a href= "https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1cKKwJNsKngjm9B1vowtSg">The Celibate Swingers</a>

In this episode we talk with the creators of the brand new lifestyle website Double Date Nation, Dave and Andi.  The four of us discuss our ideas and share our opinions on how best to create and optimize your lifestyle website profile to be most effective. We also interview them about their new site to find out how it's different from others and why they believe another lifestyle dating site is necessary. To try Double Date Nation free for three months sign up here and use promo code: WGTPC Watch Dave and Andi on their YouTube channel: The Celibate Swingers

Episode 62: Putting Yourself Out There- Lifestyle Profiles 2.0

George has been hosting elaborate and sexy lifestyle events all over the world for 15 years. Since we've attended several and get many questions about these 'mysterious' lifestyle gatherings we thought it best for you to hear directly from George! From Burning Man to Cuba to London, Mexico City, Manhattan Napa and even Washington, DC you're sure to find an event to pique your interest.  Care to join us? Explore all of George's <a href= "https://wegottathing.com/things-we-recommend/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">upcoming events here</a>!

George has been hosting elaborate and sexy lifestyle events all over the world for 15 years. Since we've attended several and get many questions about these 'mysterious' lifestyle gatherings we thought it best for you to hear directly from George! From Burning Man to Cuba to London, Mexico City, Manhattan Napa and even Washington, DC you're sure to find an event to pique your interest.  Care to join us? Explore all of George's upcoming events here!

BONUS Episode 61: Do You Know George?

Discussion Topic: In Part 2 of our judgment series we are joined by our "much younger friends" to talk about how age factors in to meeting, connecting and even playing with couples who are much older or younger. We also break down age related stereotypes in the lifestyle. Is age truly just a number? <a href= "https://www.amazon.com/New-Monogamy-Redefining-Relationship-Infidelity/dp/1608823156" target="_blank" rel="noopener">The New Monogamy</a>- Redefining Your Relationship after Infidelity by Tammy Nelson Join our <a href= "https://courses.wegottathing.com/membership-landing-page" target= "_blank" rel="noopener">members only</a> community!

Discussion Topic: In Part 2 of our judgment series we are joined by our "much younger friends" to talk about how age factors in to meeting, connecting and even playing with couples who are much older or younger. We also break down age related stereotypes in the lifestyle. Is age truly just a number? The New Monogamy- Redefining Your Relationship after Infidelity by Tammy Nelson Join our members only community!

Episode 60: What's Age Got to Do with It?

Discussion Topic: We all have experienced being judged.  However, we don't often reflect on how we judge others or why so many people in the lifestyle still tend to judge.  We discuss how we are wired and what influences in our lives may predispose us to our own personal bias when assessing and judging others. Try <a href="https://doubledatenation.com" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">Double Date Nation</a> free for three months! Use promo code WGTPC and join us as we help build a brand new lifestyle dating site. Listen to our friends Jay and Kay from <a href= "https://www.thatcouplenextdoor.com" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">That Couple Next Door</a> podcast. Less than 5 rooms remain! Travel with us to Desire Pearl the week of November 16-23, 2019!  <a href= "https://wegottathing.com/desire-2/" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">Book your trip here.</a> Join our <a href= "https://courses.wegottathing.com/p/membership-landing-page" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Members Only Community</a>

Discussion Topic: We all have experienced being judged.  However, we don't often reflect on how we judge others or why so many people in the lifestyle still tend to judge.  We discuss how we are wired and what influences in our lives may predispose us to our own personal bias when assessing and judging others. Try Double Date Nation free for three months! Use promo code WGTPC and join us as we help build a brand new lifestyle dating site. Listen to our friends Jay and Kay from That Couple Next Door podcast. Less than 5 rooms remain! Travel with us to Desire Pearl the week of November 16-23, 2019!  Book your trip here. Join our Members Only Community

Episode 59: Judgment in the Lifestyle

Discussion Topic: The swinging lifestyle is a place we go to grow our relationship.  But to experience any kind of personal or relationship growth we must step out of and beyond our comfort zones. Listen as we discuss the topic ourselves and then hear similar thoughts from others in a session we recorded with Swinging Downunder on our latest trip to Desire Pearl Resort in Cancun, Mexico. Less than 10 rooms remain! Travel with us to Desire Pearl the week of November 16-23, 2019!  <a href= "https://wegottathing.com/desire-2/" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">Book your trip here.</a> Join our <a href= "https://courses.wegottathing.com/p/membership-landing-page" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Members Only Community</a> Listen to the <a href= "https://wegottathing.com/other-lifestyle-podcasts/" target= "_blank" rel="noopener">Swinging Downunder</a> podcast

Discussion Topic: The swinging lifestyle is a place we go to grow our relationship.  But to experience any kind of personal or relationship growth we must step out of and beyond our comfort zones. Listen as we discuss the topic ourselves and then hear similar thoughts from others in a session we recorded with Swinging Downunder on our latest trip to Desire Pearl Resort in Cancun, Mexico. Less than 10 rooms remain! Travel with us to Desire Pearl the week of November 16-23, 2019!  Book your trip here. Join our Members Only Community Listen to the Swinging Downunder podcast

Episode 58: Out of Your Comfort Zone and into Paradise

A sexy and healthy approach to the swinging lifestyle!

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We Gotta Thing - A Swinger Podcast

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