First, please excuse the terrible audio on this episode. We all know that podcasts are a free informational and entertainment medium but that doesn’t mean that podcast listeners aren’t entitled to decent, listenable sound. This episode is not up to our standards. We sincerely apologize, but upon learning of the recording problem, we just couldn’t scrap this show. It's too full of fantastic comments from listeners. The questions on this show blew up our email. Listeners provided a deluge of information and opinions about the best areas of North America for swinging fun; the top turn-offs for swingers; and a fascinating debate about whether small breasted women get more or less attention in the lifestyle. Not every lifestyle party, nor every Diary Story ends with a pile of panting, bleary-eyed, smiling, naked bodies. Not every encounter goes well. In this episode we remember an experience where we should have slowed down and listened to our own intuitions about the red flags and turn-offs that our play partners were giving us. In the end we paid a heavy price for our foolishness.

First, please excuse the terrible audio on this episode. We all know that podcasts are a free informational and entertainment medium but that doesn’t mean that podcast listeners aren’t entitled to decent, listenable sound. This episode is not up to our standards. We sincerely apologize, but upon learning of the recording problem, we just couldn’t scrap this show. It's too full of fantastic comments from listeners. The questions on this show blew up our email. Listeners provided a deluge of information and opinions about the best areas of North America for swinging fun; the top turn-offs for swingers; and a fascinating debate about whether small breasted women get more or less attention in the lifestyle. Not every lifestyle party, nor every Diary Story ends with a pile of panting, bleary-eyed, smiling, naked bodies. Not every encounter goes well. In this episode we remember an experience where we should have slowed down and listened to our own intuitions about the red flags and turn-offs that our play partners were giving us. In the end we paid a heavy price for our foolishness.

Swinger Diaries

SD 84 Are small breasts a turn-off all over North America?

We're back from our unannounced getaway to Desire and it was amazing, as always. This time it was fun to go as ourselves and not worry about carrying the reputation and notoriety of "Penn and Paige" but we also took advantage of the opportunity to meet with the Desire staff and set up some of the logistics for our annual group trip which is only a few weeks away. Being with our sexy group at our favorite resort on the planet is going to make for an epic party! We know that a lot of podcasts broadly appeal to their audiences because they cover a range of sex positive topics and we appreciate that, but our show has always been about one subject first and foremost. Our show is about swinging. Here, in the Best of the the Lifestyle question, we discuss vibrators from a swingers perspective. Then we talk about techniques that experienced swingers use to encourage play to happen earlier in the evening. Lastly we tackle a listener question about women being "the gas" in the lifestyle. Ever heard of "Reverse Dating"? Neither had we, until we met a gorgeous couple that we just couldn't miss the opportunity to play with at Naughty in Nawlins. While we made a date for late afternoon play, the anticipation got the best of all of us and we found ourselves in bed with these special friends even before the scheduled time. Although the hot Louisiana sun was still shining brightly and the parade was going by on the street below, that afternoon the four of us made our own Bourbon Street memory.

We're back from our unannounced getaway to Desire and it was amazing, as always. This time it was fun to go as ourselves and not worry about carrying the reputation and notoriety of "Penn and Paige" but we also took advantage of the opportunity to meet with the Desire staff and set up some of the logistics for our annual group trip which is only a few weeks away. Being with our sexy group at our favorite resort on the planet is going to make for an epic party! We know that a lot of podcasts broadly appeal to their audiences because they cover a range of sex positive topics and we appreciate that, but our show has always been about one subject first and foremost. Our show is about swinging. Here, in the Best of the the Lifestyle question, we discuss vibrators from a swingers perspective. Then we talk about techniques that experienced swingers use to encourage play to happen earlier in the evening. Lastly we tackle a listener question about women being "the gas" in the lifestyle. Ever heard of "Reverse Dating"? Neither had we, until we met a gorgeous couple that we just couldn't miss the opportunity to play with at Naughty in Nawlins. While we made a date for late afternoon play, the anticipation got the best of all of us and we found ourselves in bed with these special friends even before the scheduled time. Although the hot Louisiana sun was still shining brightly and the parade was going by on the street below, that afternoon the four of us made our own Bourbon Street memory.   

SD 83 When she’s in charge of packing the sex toys, does playtime happen earlier?

Our swinger mojo is coming back! After a few really sexy dates, a fun NYE club night at Trapeze in Ft. Lauderdale, and a last minute trip planned to Desire, we are past the fun family obligations of the holidays and ready to go back to the gym to get into tip top swinger shape for more adventures. As always, in this episode we begin with the Best of the Lifestyle and talk about the best way to meet the "true unicorn"; a classy, sexy, respectful, charming, single guy. Then we discuss our monthly question. This one is about the frequency of anal sex in swinging play. Lastly we try to answer a lister question about how to keep the sex hot with regular play partners. In all of our years of swinging, if Penn had to choose the single most exciting and intense five seconds of all of our playtimes, this would be it. On this show we remember an encounter with a hot, mysterious, single man which is forever burned into his memory. Its hard to understand why some moments rock your world and stay with you forever but this experience will forever be one of our favorite moments of our swinging journey.

Our swinger mojo is coming back! After a few really sexy dates, a fun NYE club night at Trapeze in Ft. Lauderdale, and a last minute trip planned to Desire, we are past the fun family obligations of the holidays and ready to go back to the gym to get into tip top swinger shape for more adventures. As always, in this episode we begin with the Best of the Lifestyle and talk about the best way to meet the "true unicorn"; a classy, sexy, respectful, charming, single guy. Then we discuss our monthly question. This one is about the frequency of anal sex in swinging play. Lastly we try to answer a lister question about how to keep the sex hot with regular play partners. In all of our years of swinging, if Penn had to choose the single most exciting and intense five seconds of all of our playtimes, this would be it. On this show we remember an encounter with a hot, mysterious, single man which is forever burned into his memory. Its hard to understand why some moments rock your world and stay with you forever but this experience will forever be one of our favorite moments of our swinging journey.

SD 82 How often do you have anal sex with your regular single male playmates?

As we mentioned on our last episode, recently, at the invitation of Dave and Andi from Double Date Nation, we joined a group of podcasters for a meet and greet event called Podcaster Shinanigans at Menages in Nashville. It was a real treat to have so many varied-style podcasters together in one place so, to memorialize the occasion, we all sat around with our microphones just before the club opened and attempted to record a huge joint show, but sadly, it was an epic fail. The next day it was discovered that the whole audio file was distorted and completely unusable. The conversation was fun and interesting with fantastic observations and opinions from Euphoria Chronicles, Our Naughty Escapades and Spiritual Swingers. It was disappointing to have lost it. We were so thankful for the hospitality of DDN and Menages, and so sad to have lost the insights that we had all recorded, that last week we made a return trip to Nashville and attempted to recreate just a little bit of the lost information and ideas. In this casual, unscripted recording, we and the founders of DDN took up the same prompt that was ill-fatedly discussed by our podcaster's group, "What's so great about lifestyle clubs?" In a format very different than our typical show, the four of us got comfortable on Dave and Andi's couch, poured some drinks, pushed record, and enjoyed a great evening of relaxed conversation. We hope you enjoy this impromptu bonus episode. Merry Christmas!

As we mentioned on our last episode, recently, at the invitation of Dave and Andi from Double Date Nation, we joined a group of podcasters for a meet and greet event called Podcaster Shinanigans at Menages in Nashville. It was a real treat to have so many varied-style podcasters together in one place so, to memorialize the occasion, we all sat around with our microphones just before the club opened and attempted to record a huge joint show, but sadly, it was an epic fail. The next day it was discovered that the whole audio file was distorted and completely unusable. The conversation was fun and interesting with fantastic observations and opinions from Euphoria Chronicles, Our Naughty Escapades and Spiritual Swingers. It was disappointing to have lost it. We were so thankful for the hospitality of DDN and Menages, and so sad to have lost the insights that we had all recorded, that last week we made a return trip to Nashville and attempted to recreate just a little bit of the lost information and ideas. In this casual, unscripted recording, we and the founders of DDN took up the same prompt that was ill-fatedly discussed by our podcaster's group, "What's so great about lifestyle clubs?" In a format very different than our typical show, the four of us got comfortable on Dave and Andi's couch, poured some drinks, pushed record, and enjoyed a great evening of relaxed conversation. We hope you enjoy this impromptu bonus episode. Merry Christmas!

SD 81.5 Bonus Episode: What does DDN think is so great about lifestyle clubs?

Every lifestyle career has ups and downs. It's common to go from being, on the prowl and  hungry for play, to being completely uninterested and wondering if there’s something wrong with you in only a short period of time. In this, our 5 year anniversary episode, we talk for a few minutes about our own journey and the way we’ve been riding the rollercoaster of swinging lately.  In this show, we discuss our Best of the Lifestyle question about where to go on a first swinging date with a couple and then we transition to a definition question about what it means to “ghost” somebody in the the swinging lifestyle. Lastly, we try to answer a listener question about the best resources to get regular STI testing. Since we are self admitted “ghosters” we had no shortage of memories for our Diary Story on this topic. In this episode, our journal entry is the memory of a club night where we ghosted on one very fun couple that we do like to party with, we just don't want to play with, and instead deftly but obviously ghosted on them in order to play with another couple in the club that night. Luckily, although there was some occasional awkwardnesses, there were no hurt feelings. *One note about this episode… We experienced some kind of weird electrical disturbance during the recording of this show and there is an annoying interference in the background that is heard during the second question. We did our very best to minimize it through editing but it’s still there. It goes away after about 10 minutes but we are still a little embarrassed that you’ll have to endure a recording that is not up to our usual sound standards. Thanks, in advance, for your forgiveness.

Every lifestyle career has ups and downs. It's common to go from being, on the prowl and  hungry for play, to being completely uninterested and wondering if there’s something wrong with you in only a short period of time. In this, our 5 year anniversary episode, we talk for a few minutes about our own journey and the way we’ve been riding the rollercoaster of swinging lately.  In this show, we discuss our Best of the Lifestyle question about where to go on a first swinging date with a couple and then we transition to a definition question about what it means to “ghost” somebody in the the swinging lifestyle. Lastly, we try to answer a listener question about the best resources to get regular STI testing. Since we are self admitted “ghosters” we had no shortage of memories for our Diary Story on this topic. In this episode, our journal entry is the memory of a club night where we ghosted on one very fun couple that we do like to party with, we just don't want to play with, and instead deftly but obviously ghosted on them in order to play with another couple in the club that night. Luckily, although there was some occasional awkwardnesses, there were no hurt feelings. *One note about this episode… We experienced some kind of weird electrical disturbance during the recording of this show and there is an annoying interference in the background that is heard during the second question. We did our very best to minimize it through editing but it’s still there. It goes away after about 10 minutes but we are still a little embarrassed that you’ll have to endure a recording that is not up to our usual sound standards. Thanks, in advance, for your forgiveness.

SD 81 Should you ghost people who don’t get frequent STI testing?

We’re back from a fantastic, unannounced, quick, getaway in the gorgeous, warm, Mexican sunshine at Desire Pearl and now we are ready for the beginning of the Fall swinger season. With parties on our schedule in Toronto, Cincinnati and Nashville in the month of November, things are heating up for us even as the weather turns colder. To us, it definitely seems like Fall is the beginning of the swinger season but in this episode, listeners chimed in with their own opinions about the best season for swinging fun. We also discuss our question for this month about how many details of your personal play preferences you should share with new play partners. Then, with help from our audience, we do our best to answer a listener question about inactive profiles on dating websites. Some of our stories are more descriptive than others, but the experience we remember in our Diary Story in this episode was just so fun and exciting for us that we couldn’t resist sharing the juicy details. Listen as we giggle our way through the memory of a very hot experience with some newbies and the way they showed us a whole new technique for erotic play.

We’re back from a fantastic, unannounced, quick, getaway in the gorgeous, warm, Mexican sunshine at Desire Pearl and now we are ready for the beginning of the Fall swinger season. With parties on our schedule in Toronto, Cincinnati and Nashville in the month of November, things are heating up for us even as the weather turns colder. To us, it definitely seems like Fall is the beginning of the swinger season but in this episode, listeners chimed in with their own opinions about the best season for swinging fun. We also discuss our question for this month about how many details of your personal play preferences you should share with new play partners. Then, with help from our audience, we do our best to answer a listener question about inactive profiles on dating websites. Some of our stories are more descriptive than others, but the experience we remember in our Diary Story in this episode was just so fun and exciting for us that we couldn’t resist sharing the juicy details. Listen as we giggle our way through the memory of a very hot experience with some newbies and the way they showed us a whole new technique for erotic play.

SD 80 How much do you want to know about why some couples just disappear?

Fall is upon us and with the changing leaves and cooler temperatures the swinging scene really heats up. We are definitely excited about the upcoming lifestyle travel we have planned and about the fall party scene. It’s been a challenging summer for us as we have been juggling some health issues while still fitting in time for our active swinging schedule. We aren’t complaining. It’s been a great summer but, now back to full health, fall is going to be even better. As with last month’s question about bisexual men in the lifestyle, one of this month's questions really struck a raw nerve with some listeners and we were flooded with answers on the subject of women’s insecurities about the size and shape of their labia. It’s a fascinating topic. In this episode we also discuss, being too soft and gentle in play and, as avid travelers, we talk about the best way to book your lifestyle vacations. As we’ve intimated in the past, Paige has been dealing with a painful and stressful health issue regarding her breast. In our diary story for this show, we pull back the curtain and give you the details of how this injury actually occurred and in doing so, demonstrate how important it is to be respectful, gentle, careful, communicative and responsive during play.

Fall is upon us and with the changing leaves and cooler temperatures the swinging scene really heats up. We are definitely excited about the upcoming lifestyle travel we have planned and about the fall party scene. It’s been a challenging summer for us as we have been juggling some health issues while still fitting in time for our active swinging schedule. We aren’t complaining. It’s been a great summer but, now back to full health, fall is going to be even better. As with last month’s question about bisexual men in the lifestyle, one of this month's questions really struck a raw nerve with some listeners and we were flooded with answers on the subject of women’s insecurities about the size and shape of their labia. It’s a fascinating topic. In this episode we also discuss, being too soft and gentle in play and, as avid travelers, we talk about the best way to book your lifestyle vacations. As we’ve intimated in the past, Paige has been dealing with a painful and stressful health issue regarding her breast. In our diary story for this show, we pull back the curtain and give you the details of how this injury actually occurred and in doing so, demonstrate how important it is to be respectful, gentle, careful, communicative and responsive during play.

SD 79 Can you be too soft and gentle with that pretty pussy?

Want to know what happens at the world largest swingers convention when dozens of sexy women kick all their husbands out of the room and, while drinking mimosas, let go of all of their inhibitions? If you're thinking toenail painting which evolves into pillow fights and then a wild all-girl, kitten-pile style orgy… then you would be wrong. But, while not quite as titillating, when, at Naughty in New Orleans, these women pulled out the microphones and pushed record with no men to interrupt or talk over them, the result was some fantastic and insightful conversation. Consider it a girl-power, brain orgy. In this bonus episode, we present Part 2 of the three part series of the recording that happened in that room in New Orleans. If you have not heard Part 1, stop right here. Go immediately to the Two or More to Tango Podcast (Episode 31) and listen to the beginning part of the discussion so you can pick up the conversation here on Swinger Diaries. When you’re finished listening, you will surly want to hear the conclusion which is posted on the Average Swingers Podcast (Episode 115). It was a casual, raw, fun-filled morning of girl talk. I was flattered to be included in the conversation and even more honored to be able to call all of these amazing women, my friends.

Want to know what happens at the world largest swingers convention when dozens of sexy women kick all their husbands out of the room and, while drinking mimosas, let go of all of their inhibitions? If you're thinking toenail painting which evolves into pillow fights and then a wild all-girl, kitten-pile style orgy… then you would be wrong. But, while not quite as titillating, when, at Naughty in New Orleans, these women pulled out the microphones and pushed record with no men to interrupt or talk over them, the result was some fantastic and insightful conversation. Consider it a girl-power, brain orgy. In this bonus episode, we present Part 2 of the three part series of the recording that happened in that room in New Orleans. If you have not heard Part 1, stop right here. Go immediately to the Two or More to Tango Podcast (Episode 31) and listen to the beginning part of the discussion so you can pick up the conversation here on Swinger Diaries. When you’re finished listening, you will surly want to hear the conclusion which is posted on the Average Swingers Podcast (Episode 115). It was a casual, raw, fun-filled morning of girl talk. I was flattered to be included in the conversation and even more honored to be able to call all of these amazing women, my friends.

SD 78 Bonus Episode The Ladies of the Lifestyle (LOL)

We're back from the biggest swingers convention in the world, Naughty in New Orleans, and every year it seems to grow more massive and more exciting. One of the highlights of this year’s trip was a special recording made by the “Ladies of the Lifestyle” (LOL), a group of podcasting women who all got together, with no men in the room, to talk about the topics that affect women in the swinging lifestyle. You’ll be able to hear all three parts of that recoding by tuning into the special bonus episodes soon to be released on the Two or More to Tango Podcast for part one, then right here on Swinger Diaries for the second segment, and then the wrap up of the conversation on the Average Swingers Podcast. We think you’ll enjoy the casual but insightful banter of these sexy ladies. After a fantastic house party last month, for this episode’s The Best of the Lifestyle segment, we were inspired to discuss the characteristics and attributes of the best swinger house parties. We also answer a listener’s question about how to broach the topic of swinging with your spouse in a way that doesn’t cause indignance and insult. However, the most engaging question of this show, as evidenced by the deluge of emails we received, was the topic of bisexual men in the lifestyle and why they are still so closeted in the general swinging population. Our listeners had some pretty powerful replies. We do love to travel and have been to most of the biggest lifestyle venues in North America. This episode’s diary story is about an encounter we had at Temptation Resort in Cancun. Unlike Desire, in this wild party atmosphere where the crowd isn’t always made up of the classic heteronormative male-female couples, Penn came face to face with an obvious and open invitation to explore some play with men and… well, lets just say that the night did end in a pile of same-sex bodies.

We're back from the biggest swingers convention in the world, Naughty in New Orleans, and every year it seems to grow more massive and more exciting. One of the highlights of this year’s trip was a special recording made by the “Ladies of the Lifestyle” (LOL), a group of podcasting women who all got together, with no men in the room, to talk about the topics that affect women in the swinging lifestyle. You’ll be able to hear all three parts of that recoding by tuning into the special bonus episodes soon to be released on the Two or More to Tango Podcast for part one, then right here on Swinger Diaries for the second segment, and then the wrap up of the conversation on the Average Swingers Podcast. We think you’ll enjoy the casual but insightful banter of these sexy ladies. After a fantastic house party last month, for this episode’s The Best of the Lifestyle segment, we were inspired to discuss the characteristics and attributes of the best swinger house parties. We also answer a listener’s question about how to broach the topic of swinging with your spouse in a way that doesn’t cause indignance and insult. However, the most engaging question of this show, as evidenced by the deluge of emails we received, was the topic of bisexual men in the lifestyle and why they are still so closeted in the general swinging population. Our listeners had some pretty powerful replies. We do love to travel and have been to most of the biggest lifestyle venues in North America. This episode’s diary story is about an encounter we had at Temptation Resort in Cancun. Unlike Desire, in this wild party atmosphere where the crowd isn’t always made up of the classic heteronormative male-female couples, Penn came face to face with an obvious and open invitation to explore some play with men and… well, lets just say that the night did end in a pile of same-sex bodies.

SD 77 How can a bisexual man approach his wife about bringing a guy into their bedroom?

We are so lucky. We live an amazing life. Sometimes we have to pinch ourselves to believe it's real. Almost every weekend this past month we have traveled all over the country to visit amazing sexy venues, parties and friends. Even though this podcast is entertainment and information for our listeners, it's also our diary and so in this episode we indulge ourselves with a few minutes of memories as we recount our recent adventures. Because we visit so many great events, in The Best or the Lifestyle we discuss the best themes  that party planners can use to get the maximum participation by their guests. We then ask a question of our listeners for our own benefit because we don’t know the answer and we get a little lesson about the benefits of separate room play. Our listen’s question is a great one too. It's all about the inconsistency of condom use for oral and vaginal sex in the swinging lifestyle.  We don’t play separate, not really as rule but more as a preference, but this month’s diary story is the memory of an encounter where we pushed that boundary. The experience was interesting but it definitely cemented our feeling that, for us, we will always have and always will prefer to be together when it come to playtime.

We are so lucky. We live an amazing life. Sometimes we have to pinch ourselves to believe it's real. Almost every weekend this past month we have traveled all over the country to visit amazing sexy venues, parties and friends. Even though this podcast is entertainment and information for our listeners, it's also our diary and so in this episode we indulge ourselves with a few minutes of memories as we recount our recent adventures. Because we visit so many great events, in The Best or the Lifestyle we discuss the best themes  that party planners can use to get the maximum participation by their guests. We then ask a question of our listeners for our own benefit because we don’t know the answer and we get a little lesson about the benefits of separate room play. Our listen’s question is a great one too. It's all about the inconsistency of condom use for oral and vaginal sex in the swinging lifestyle.  We don’t play separate, not really as rule but more as a preference, but this month’s diary story is the memory of an encounter where we pushed that boundary. The experience was interesting but it definitely cemented our feeling that, for us, we will always have and always will prefer to be together when it come to playtime.

SD 76 When you play in separate rooms, do you give blowjobs without condoms?

Podcasts are such a powerful medium. Not only because they share so much unfiltered, valuable information, but because the create a very real and intense one-sided friendship between hosts and listeners. We know. We are both hosts and listeners of so many shows. In the spirit of wanting to complete the open circle of friendship with our listeners, we have some fantastic events coming up this year and we would love to have you join us. From meet and greets, to NIN, to our annual Desire trip, to the epic Podcast-a-Palooza, we would love to meet you in person. Come travel and party with us! Some topics really touch a raw nerve with listeners and solicit a deluge of responses. This is one of those shows. In the Best one the Lifestyle segment, we talk about the best websites to use to buy your sexy swinging outfits and accessories. Then we discus our question (which we shamelessly stole from <a href="http://themonogamousmarriage.com">themonogamishmarriage.com</a>) about whether or not we SHOULD be telling our kids about the lifestyle. Finally, listeners write in amazingly insightful answers to a request for advice about how to handle a couple that wants an exclusive relationship. Our diary story is a cautionary tale about our friendship with a couple that crossed the line from casual sexy play to deep and real emotional connection. Some people prefer the casual hook ups, some want a long and deep relationship and some are searching for polyamory. The awkward, painful, frustrating friction happens when not everybody is on the same page.

Podcasts are such a powerful medium. Not only because they share so much unfiltered, valuable information, but because the create a very real and intense one-sided friendship between hosts and listeners. We know. We are both hosts and listeners of so many shows. In the spirit of wanting to complete the open circle of friendship with our listeners, we have some fantastic events coming up this year and we would love to have you join us. From meet and greets, to NIN, to our annual Desire trip, to the epic Podcast-a-Palooza, we would love to meet you in person. Come travel and party with us! Some topics really touch a raw nerve with listeners and solicit a deluge of responses. This is one of those shows. In the Best one the Lifestyle segment, we talk about the best websites to use to buy your sexy swinging outfits and accessories. Then we discus our question (which we shamelessly stole from themonogamishmarriage.com) about whether or not we SHOULD be telling our kids about the lifestyle. Finally, listeners write in amazingly insightful answers to a request for advice about how to handle a couple that wants an exclusive relationship. Our diary story is a cautionary tale about our friendship with a couple that crossed the line from casual sexy play to deep and real emotional connection. Some people prefer the casual hook ups, some want a long and deep relationship and some are searching for polyamory. The awkward, painful, frustrating friction happens when not everybody is on the same page.

SD 75 Should you tell your kids about your boyfriend and girlfriend?

As we decompress and recover from our week in Desire’s lap of sexy luxury last month, we begin to look forward to new adventures. Our next exciting event is this summer’s NIN convention. It should be epic, as it is every year. In this episode’s The Best of the Lifestyle segment, we discuss an often-asked question which is frequently posed by newbies about what, in our opinion, is the best swingers’ dating website and what makes some sites better than others. Once your are on a site, it probably won’t take you very long to get an unsolicited, generic greeting from a stranger. Some sites call it a poke, some a flirt, some call it blowing kisses, but what are you supposed to do with that compliment and vague invitation, answer back or ignore? What’s the proper etiquette? Lastly, as always, we attempt to reply to a request for advice from listeners. This question is about how to approach a couple without intimidating them by the fact that you are a threesome. Thankfully, our listeners, gave some sage advice. Our diary story this month is about a much anticipated get-together with a couple we met online. Prior to the big date, we scoured their profile for every detail. They seemed perfect but, unfortunately they neglected to correctly report one very important detail on their profile and the revelation of some unexpected information changed the trajectory of the evening.

As we decompress and recover from our week in Desire’s lap of sexy luxury last month, we begin to look forward to new adventures. Our next exciting event is this summer’s NIN convention. It should be epic, as it is every year. In this episode’s The Best of the Lifestyle segment, we discuss an often-asked question which is frequently posed by newbies about what, in our opinion, is the best swingers’ dating website and what makes some sites better than others. Once your are on a site, it probably won’t take you very long to get an unsolicited, generic greeting from a stranger. Some sites call it a poke, some a flirt, some call it blowing kisses, but what are you supposed to do with that compliment and vague invitation, answer back or ignore? What’s the proper etiquette? Lastly, as always, we attempt to reply to a request for advice from listeners. This question is about how to approach a couple without intimidating them by the fact that you are a threesome. Thankfully, our listeners, gave some sage advice. Our diary story this month is about a much anticipated get-together with a couple we met online. Prior to the big date, we scoured their profile for every detail. They seemed perfect but, unfortunately they neglected to correctly report one very important detail on their profile and the revelation of some unexpected information changed the trajectory of the evening.

SD 74 How do you flirt with a threesome on your favorite online dating site?

We anticipated it for a whole year but it was worth the wait! This episode was recorded LIVE in the disco at Desire RM where a flatteringly huge audience of people took time away from the week-long naked party to join us and help answer questions. It was another epic week for us and this recording gives you just a taste of the kind of sexy, provocative and fascinating conversations that were had in the jacuzzi every afternoon.  In the Best of the Lifestyle segment our live audience discussed a breakdown of the differences and similarities between Desire RM and Desire Pearl. Then we shifted gears to discuss the best way to make an invitation to another couple for play. Finally, we all struggled with the question of age in the LS. How young is too young and can you ever get over the weirdness of playing with people who are your kids’ ages? Our Diary Story in this show was a very fresh memory. It actually happened at Desire the very night before we recorded. Although we are Desire veterans and experienced swingers, even we struggle with “sealing the deal”. This situation reminded us of the importance of being clear and bold in making the invitation to play, even when it's with great friends, or you just might miss out on some fantastic experiences.

We anticipated it for a whole year but it was worth the wait! This episode was recorded LIVE in the disco at Desire RM where a flatteringly huge audience of people took time away from the week-long naked party to join us and help answer questions. It was another epic week for us and this recording gives you just a taste of the kind of sexy, provocative and fascinating conversations that were had in the jacuzzi every afternoon.  In the Best of the Lifestyle segment our live audience discussed a breakdown of the differences and similarities between Desire RM and Desire Pearl. Then we shifted gears to discuss the best way to make an invitation to another couple for play. Finally, we all struggled with the question of age in the LS. How young is too young and can you ever get over the weirdness of playing with people who are your kids’ ages? Our Diary Story in this show was a very fresh memory. It actually happened at Desire the very night before we recorded. Although we are Desire veterans and experienced swingers, even we struggle with “sealing the deal”. This situation reminded us of the importance of being clear and bold in making the invitation to play, even when it's with great friends, or you just might miss out on some fantastic experiences.

SD 73 How do you make the transition to playtime with a couple who are your kids' ages?

After an unusual week when we found ourselves in two different Midwest lifestyle clubs in two different states in only 48 hours, we got to thinking about clubs and what makes some better or worse to us for our particular party preferences. So, in this episode’s, The Best of the Lifestyle segment, we review Midwest clubs. Because we live in the Midwest, we’ve been to quite a few but not nearly all of them so we’d love to hear listeners’ opinions about their experiences too. Our question for this episode is about whether swingers like the “shock factor” of being able to confuse and titilate observers and eavesdroppers when they are in vanilla settings. To us it seems like the answer comes down to a personal enjoyment or aversion to being an exhibitionist at heart. Our listener’s question comes from a single guy who plays separately with a hall pass and he asks if it's really necessary or even fair that so many couples seem to require verification from his wife before they play. After all, we are all consenting adults aren’t we? But on the other hand, nobody wants to be a home-wrecker either. While most of our diary stories are of our memories of fun sexy play experiences with other people, what’s rarely said on our podcast is that at the end of a fun night of clubbing, we often end up just wanting to play together. Sometimes, like in this episode’s story, just the flirting and watching and sexy atmosphere is all the entertainment we need and the show that naturally exists at a great lifestyle club leads to a hot encounter for just the two of us.

After an unusual week when we found ourselves in two different Midwest lifestyle clubs in two different states in only 48 hours, we got to thinking about clubs and what makes some better or worse to us for our particular party preferences. So, in this episode’s, The Best of the Lifestyle segment, we review Midwest clubs. Because we live in the Midwest, we’ve been to quite a few but not nearly all of them so we’d love to hear listeners’ opinions about their experiences too. Our question for this episode is about whether swingers like the “shock factor” of being able to confuse and titilate observers and eavesdroppers when they are in vanilla settings. To us it seems like the answer comes down to a personal enjoyment or aversion to being an exhibitionist at heart. Our listener’s question comes from a single guy who plays separately with a hall pass and he asks if it's really necessary or even fair that so many couples seem to require verification from his wife before they play. After all, we are all consenting adults aren’t we? But on the other hand, nobody wants to be a home-wrecker either. While most of our diary stories are of our memories of fun sexy play experiences with other people, what’s rarely said on our podcast is that at the end of a fun night of clubbing, we often end up just wanting to play together. Sometimes, like in this episode’s story, just the flirting and watching and sexy atmosphere is all the entertainment we need and the show that naturally exists at a great lifestyle club leads to a hot encounter for just the two of us.

SD 72 Does it turn you on to flirt with a single guy in a vanilla bar?

As we begin Book 3 of Swinger Diaries, we recall the milestones we’ve passed on our podcasting journey and then introduce our new format which involves answering one question of our’s, one directly from a listener, and our new segment, The Best of the Lifestyle, where we review the largest swinger’s convention in Canada. It’s a huge hotel takeover that happens every year in the beginning of February and its called Valentines in Niagra. As we will in all Book 3 episodes, we discuss one philosophical question of ours. This time it’s about the veto power and who uses it more often, him or her. Then we we have a conversation about a related question that was asked by a listener about how to handle an unequal attraction to another couple. Our diary story is one of the hardest we've ever re-told. We have avoided recounting it many times in past episodes because, even years later, the memory is still so painful for Paige. It’s an emotional story for us but it reminds us that sometimes, in the sensitive world of the lifestyle, tact and sensitivity are as important as honesty. While growth may come from the discomfort of challenging yourself, for us, first and foremost, this lifestyle adventure is about our fun as a couple and so we consciously choose to pursue only the encounters that we both enjoy.

As we begin Book 3 of Swinger Diaries, we recall the milestones we’ve passed on our podcasting journey and then introduce our new format which involves answering one question of our’s, one directly from a listener, and our new segment, The Best of the Lifestyle, where we review the largest swinger’s convention in Canada. It’s a huge hotel takeover that happens every year in the beginning of February and its called Valentines in Niagra. As we will in all Book 3 episodes, we discuss one philosophical question of ours. This time it’s about the veto power and who uses it more often, him or her. Then we we have a conversation about a related question that was asked by a listener about how to handle an unequal attraction to another couple. Our diary story is one of the hardest we've ever re-told. We have avoided recounting it many times in past episodes because, even years later, the memory is still so painful for Paige. It’s an emotional story for us but it reminds us that sometimes, in the sensitive world of the lifestyle, tact and sensitivity are as important as honesty. While growth may come from the discomfort of challenging yourself, for us, first and foremost, this lifestyle adventure is about our fun as a couple and so we consciously choose to pursue only the encounters that we both enjoy.

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Swinger Diaries

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