In today’s episode, we cover emotion efficacy with Dr. Aprilia West. Dr. West is a psychologist and executive and team leadership coach who works extensively with artists, creatives, and entertainment execs to increase their emotional intelligence, psychological flexibility, and resilience.Emotions influence our thoughts and actions everyday, so what can you do to understand them, understand where they come from, and understand how to manage them so they don’t lead you to make harmful decisions?What to Listen ForIntroduction – 0:00What is emotion efficacy?What is the emotional default world and how does it shape your behavior?The importance of emotion efficacy – 13:33 What is the difference between feelings and emotions?The signs of low emotion efficacy – 27:00How do you know if you have low emotion efficacy?What questions can you ask yourself to understand where you have room to grow emotionally?Five Steps to Increase Emotion Efficacy – 35:10What can you do to increase your emotion efficacy?What does it look like to have great emotion efficacy in times of intense uncertainty?The Loneliness Epidemic – 40:05What role does emotion efficacy play in your ability to connect with others and build friendships?Emotion efficacy is the ability to understand your emotions and express them in a healthy manner. It’s what allows you to stay in a positive emotional state and navigate challenging situations. In times of intense uncertainty, it can be one of the most important things you possess. A Word From Our SponsorsDo you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. Join today and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way.Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using our link? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month!Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you? That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere!Resources from this EpisodeDr Aprilia West’s websiteWhat You Feel Is Not All There Is by Dr. Aprilia WestDr Aprilia West on InstagramCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube

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How To Boost Your Emotional Intelligence w/ Dr. Aprilia West

In today’s episode, we cover narcissism with Lily Walford. Lily is an international dating coach and the survivor of a toxic narcissistic relationship.Narcissists are all around us and can cause untold harm to our mental wellbeing, so what can you do to identify and disarm narcissists, how can you tell if you’re in a relationship with one, and what should you look for to avoid getting into a relationship with one?What to Listen ForIntroduction – 0:00What does narcissism look like?How to identify narcissists – 15:30 What signs can you look for if you think you’re dating a narcissist?How do you know if someone is a narcissist?Self-care after a relationship with a narcissist – 24:05What can you do to take care of yourself after a toxic relationship with a narcissist?Disarming Narcissists – 31:15What can you to disarm a narcissist?How will a narcissist stop you from disarming him or her?Dating after a narcissist – 41:07What 4 elements should you look for in a healthy relationship?What can you do to reinvigorate a relationship?Narcissists tend to be charismatic and successful. If you surround yourself with top performers, chances are there is a narcissist among them. So it’s important to be able to identify them before they wreak havoc on your personal and professional life. Additionally, there are steps you can take to disarm narcissists so they lose their power over you and the people around you. And if you find yourself dating a narcissist, make sure you take time after the relationship to identify what went wrong and be on the lookout for the 4 elements of a healthy relationship so you don’t end up dating another narcissist.A Word From Our SponsorsDo you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. Join today and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way.Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using our link? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month!Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you? That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere!Resources from this EpisodeLily Walford’s websiteLove With Intelligence YouTube ChannelLove With Intellgience Facebook GroupCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube

How to Quickly Identify and Disarm Narcissists | Lily Walford

In today’s episode, we cover the science of competition with Ashley Merryman. Ashley is the Non-Resident Senior Fellow for the Joint Special Operations University and author of Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing.Competition can be healthy and unhealthy, so how do you know the difference between healthy and unhealthy competition, what are the differences between how introverts and extroverts handle competition, and how does gender play a role in competition?What to Listen ForIntroduction – 0:00What are the biggest myths surrounding competition and trying to be number one?What are the benefits of competition?Healthy vs Unhealthy Competition – 9:00 What is the difference between healthy competition and unhealthy competition?Where does the fear of failure come from?Overcome Fear of Failure – 15:30What is the difference between a challenge and a threat and how can one lead you to failure while the other leads to success?What can you do to overcome the fear of failure when you know people are watching you?Don’t Think About Pink Elephants – 29:40What can you do to start being competitive again after a severe loss?What are the differences between men and women when it comes to competition and competitive environments?What role does gender play in competition?Introverts vs Extroverts in Competition – 56:20Why do introverts and extroverts approach competition differently and how can you use that knowledge to improve your ability to compete whether you are an introvert or extrovert?Competition can be a powerful motivator, but it’s important to make sure that you are using it in a healthy way. When competition becomes destructive and fear-based, it ruins our relationships and keeps us from achieving our goals. By understanding your own tendencies and working on overcoming your fears, you can learn to use competition in a positive way that unlocks your full potential.A Word From Our SponsorsDo you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. Join today and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way.Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using our link? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month!Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you? That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere!Resources from this EpisodeTop Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing by Ashley MerrymanAshley Merryman’s websiteAshley Merryman on TwitterCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube

How To Use Competition to Propel You to Success | Ashley Merryman

In today’s episode, we cover networking to survive the recession with AJ and Johnny. People rely on those they trust in times of economic hardship, so what can you do to grow your network before the next economic downturn and what value can you offer to strengthen your existing network so you’re in a better position when the next recession hits?What to Listen ForIntroduction – 0:00Why is networking so important when you’re starting in a new field or trying to move up in your current field?Why is a strong network important to have before a recession begins?What everyone gets wrong about networking – 13:03 How do you network effectively so you’re not shooting yourself in the foot at every networking event?What is social capital and why do you need to understand it to network effectively?What three ways can you provide value to anyone in your network?The 4 levels of support value you can offer to anyone – 23:20What can you do to stand out from the crowd when congratulating or supporting someone in your network? Leverage your network to provide value to others – 33:50How can you use your existing network to grow it while also offering value to people inside and outside of your network?What simple strategy can you use to grow your network from nothing on LinkedIn?It’s not a question of if the next recession will hit, but when. So, it’s important to start building your network now. A strong network can help you weather any storm. The more people you know in different industries and positions, the more resources you have at your disposal. Social capital is key to networking effectively; make sure you understand what it is and how to use it to your advantage. A Word From Our SponsorsDo you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. Join today and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way.Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using our link? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month!Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you? That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere!Resources from this EpisodeHow to Attract High Value People & Opportunities | ToolboxCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube

How to Build a Recession-Proof Network | Toolbox

In today’s episode, we cover  with Angie Morgan. Angie is the co-author of Bet on You: How to Win with Risk, a book about discovering the formula for success and decision-making confidence to transform even the most risk-averse mindset.We have to take risks in order to become great at anything, but what do you do if that risk stops you dead in your tracks, who should you seek out for advice, and how can you manage risk so you can accomplish your dreams?What to Listen ForIntroduction – 0:00How do you break something down that appears to be a large risk?Who are the three types of people you should look out for when getting advice on a big risk you want to take, and who should you avoid?How to Find High Value Communities – 13:05 Where can you go to find high value communities that will support you and help you on your journey to achieve your dreams?How to Grow Your Confidence – 20:20What are the three components of confidence you need to focus on in order to become more confident?How to Mitigate Big Risk – 39:30What three strategies can you implement to effectively manage the risks you take in life?When it comes to making big decisions, it’s important to get advice from the right people. Seek out those who will give you honest feedback and support you on your journey. Avoid getting bogged down by negative people or those who are not willing to help you achieve your dreams. With the right mindset and a supportive community, anything is possible. What risks are you ready to take in order to achieve your goals?A Word From Our SponsorsDo you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. Join today and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way.Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using our link? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month!Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you? That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere!Resources from this EpisodeBet on You: How to Win with Risk by Angie MorganCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube

How To Win With Risk | Angie Morgan

In today’s episode, we cover building high value relationships with AJ & Johnny. Building high value relationships requires vulnerability, but what does it mean to be vulnerable, how do you know when to be vulnerable, and what are some simple strategies you can use to be more effective in relationship building?What to Listen ForIntroduction – 0:00Why is it important to build high value relationships?How do you start making new friends?Turn Small Talk into Smart Talk – 12:00 Why is vulnerability important when building connections with people?How do you bring vulnerability into your social interactions?The Three Levels of Vulnerability – 17:00What is the first level of vulnerability and how do you know when to use it?How do you know when to go to the deepest level of vulnerability?What red flags should you look for in the way people react to your vulnerability?The Cave Analogy of Vulnerability – 37:50Why is it important to lead with vulnerability before expecting others to be vulnerable?We hope that you walk away from this episode feeling empowered to build high value relationships with others. By being vulnerable and authentic, we create opportunities for true connection and intimacy. When we lead with vulnerability, it sets the tone for a more open and connected relationship in which both parties can be their true selves. What are you waiting for? Start building those connections today!A Word From Our SponsorsDo you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. Join today and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way.Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using our link? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month!Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you? That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere!Resources from this EpisodeThe Strength of Weak Ties by Mark S. GranovetterArt of Charm Small Talk Cheat SheetCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube

How To Build Rapport Quickly With Anyone | Toolbox

In today’s episode, we cover social engineering with Christopher Hadnagy. Chris is an IT entrepreneur, IT security consultant, and the best-selling author of five books including his latest Human Hacking: Win Friends, Influence People, and Leave Them Better Off for Having Met You.Social engineering is an effective tool to get what you want, but what is social engineering, how can you use it to instantly build rapport with complete strangers, and what should you look for if you think someone is using it against you? What to Listen ForIntroduction – 0:00What is social engineering and how do people use it every day?How to Build Rapport  – 10:10 Why is it important to learn how to build rapport and how do you go about learning it?The Four Questions of Trustworthiness – 25:18What are the four questions we ask ourselves to determine whether or not we can trust someone?How can you build rapport instantly with someone you’ve just met? When is flattery NOT ok? – 41:30When should you avoid complimenting someone?What’s the best way to compliment someone?Social engineering is a powerful tool that can be used in positive or negative ways. By learning how to build rapport, you can use social engineering for good – to make connections with people, learn their stories, and understand them better. When you know how to spot red flags and protect yourself against social engineers, you become a more informed and empowered individual who can help keep themselves and others safe. A Word From Our SponsorsDo you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. Join today and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way.Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using our link? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month!Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you? That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere!Resources from this EpisodeHuman Hacking: Win Friends, Influence People, and Leave Them Better Off for Having Met You by Christopher HadnagyChristopher Hadnagy’s websiteChristopher Hadnagy on TwitterCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube

How To Build Trust with Anyone Using Social Engineering | Christopher Hadnagy

In today’s episode, we cover contextual behaviorism with Dr. Emily Sandoz. Emily is a professor of social sciences in the psychology department at the University of Louisiana at Lafayette, the director of the Louisiana Contextual Science Research Group, as well as the Editor in Chief of the Journal of Contextual Behavioral Sciences, and has co-authored three books on acceptance and commitment therapy.Changing or eliminating problematic behavior is not as simple as flipping a switch, but what role does your environment play, how can you identify contextual problems in your daily life that are affecting your behavior, and what is the best way to learn new behaviors?What to Listen ForIntroduction – 0:00What is contextual behaviorism and how does the environment influence your ability to change your behavior?Using  – 11:50 How can you use contextual behaviorism to change your problematic behavior?What does it mean to have access to certain behaviors and how do you what behaviors you do have access to?Learning new behaviors – 23:07What is the best way to learn new behaviors?How can you use contextualism to manage your perfectionism?Give better advice with context in mind – 33:00How can you set up your environment to be more conducive to the life you want?How do you shift from a goal-driven mindset to a value-driven mindset and what’s the difference?Context matters. That couldn’t be more true than with our behavioral development. Our behaviors impact the world around us and the world around us impacts our behaviors. So if you’re struggling to change your behaviors, one of the best places to look for a solution is your environment. What is it about your environment that is making it more difficult for you to change? A Word From Our SponsorsDo you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. Join today and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way.Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using our link? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month!Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you? That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere!Resources from this EpisodeDr. Emily SandozCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube

How To Set Up Your Environment For Your Success | Dr. Emily Sandoz

In today’s episode, we cover high value behaviors with AJ and Johnny. Being a high value person opens doors to opportunities you never thought possible, so what does it mean to be high value, what high value behaviors should you look for in yourself and others, and what simple steps can you take to filter high value people into your life?What to Listen ForIntroduction – 0:00Why are high value behaviors important if you want to have a healthy social circle and fulfilling life?What does it mean to be high value – 16:10 What is the difference between high and low value behaviors and why should you avoid low value behaviors if you don’t want to be miserable?How do you deal with friends who want to hold you back when you’re trying to grow and be a better person?How to Build a High Value Social Circle – 28:00What steps can you take to build and maintain a social circle of high value individuals who will support you and be there for you when you need them?Examples of High Value Behavior – 37:50How can you identify high value behavior in the people around you so you know who to connect with and who to avoid?So, what are high value behaviors? They’re the things that help us grow and become better people. They make our lives more fulfilling and meaningful. And they attract other high value individuals into our social circles. We all want to be happy and have a good life, but too often we get stuck around low value behavior that keeps us from reaching our goals. If you want to break out of this cycle and build a better life for yourself, start by making some changes in the way you interact with the people around you. Replace low value behaviors with high value ones, and surround yourself with positive people who will support your growth. It won’t be easy, but it’s worth it. A Word From Our SponsorsDo you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. Join today and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way.Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using our link? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month!Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you? That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere!Resources from this EpisodeAvoid These 3 Low Value Behaviors (Toolbox)Check in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube

How to Attract High Value People & Opportunities | Toolbox

In today’s episode, we cover winning your breakup with Natasha Adamo. Natasha is a high-performance coach, relationship coach, speaker, blogger with over two and a half million readers, and the author of Win Your Breakup: How to Be The One That Got Away.Breakups can be painful and get drawn out, so what can you do win your breakup, what does it mean to win, and how can you avoid falling into another toxic relationship?What to Listen ForIntroduction – 0:00What are the signs of toxic relationships?How do you win your breakup?Breaking the Toxic Relationship Cycle – 19:48 How do you break the cycle of jumping from one toxic relationship to another?What signs should you look for in a potential partner?Stay on your white horse after a breakup – 27:20What steps should you take after a breakup to speed up the recovery process?What should you avoid doing after a breakup if you want to move on?Emotional Entrepreneurship – 45:36What is an emotional entrepreneur and why are people drawn to emotional entrepreneurs?Winning a breakup is not about getting your ex back. It's about gaining back control of your life and becoming emotionally stronger. So how do you win? You need to understand what it means to win. Identify the signs of toxic relationships, break the cycle of jumping from one toxic relationship to another, and take steps to speed up the recovery process..A Word From Our SponsorsDo you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. Join today and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way.Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using our link? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month!Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you? That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere!Resources from this EpisodeNatasha Adamo’s websiteWin Your Breakup: How to Be The One That Got Away by Natasha AdamoCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube

How to Win Your Breakup | Natasha Adamo

In today’s episode, we cover mental health with Lori Gottlieb. Lori is a psychotherapist in Los Angeles, co-host of the podcast Dear Therapists, and the author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone.Mental health is a priority now more than ever, so what are the overlooked signs that someone is struggling with mental health, how do you know if you should talk to a professional, and why is boundary setting crucial to positive mental health?What to Listen ForIntroduction – 0:00What are the overlooked signs that someone is struggling with mental health issues?What is the value in seeing a therapist versus talking to your friends and family about issues you’re experiencing in life?The self-sabotaging stories we tell ourselves – 11:12 Why do we tell ourselves stories about what happens to us and how do those stories have lasting negative impacts on us and the people around us?What impact do the people around us have on our mental health and what can you do if your friends aren’t healthy for you?Setting and maintaining boundaries – 24:24How do you set boundaries and maintain them with people who constantly violate them? Finding the right person – 47:05What is the number one question you should ask yourself when on a first date?Mental health is something many people struggle with, but often don’t talk about. The signs that someone is struggling can be easily overlooked if you’re not aware of them. It’s important to be there for your loved ones and help them get the help they need if you see any of these signs. If you’re experiencing mental health issues, it’s valuable to seek out therapy. Friends and family are great sources of support, but sometimes talking to somebody neutral who isn’t invested in our lives can be really helpful, even lifesaving. A Word From Our SponsorsDo you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. Join today and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way.Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using our link? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month!Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you? That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere!Resources from this EpisodeLori Gottlieb’s websiteDear Therapists with Lori Gottlieb and Guy WinchTED Talk: How changing your story can change your life | Lori GottliebOvercoming Nice Guy Syndrome | Dr. Robert GloverCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube

5 Steps To Boost Your Mental Health | Lori Gottlieb

In today’s episode, we cover influence with Zoe Chance. Zoe is a teacher, writer, researcher, climate philanthropist, earned her doctorate from Harvard, teaches Mastering Influence and Persuasion, the most popular class at the Yale School of Management, and is the author of Influence is Your Superpower: The Science of Winning Hearts, Sparking Change, and Making Good Things Happen.Influencing the people around you is a superpower, but how do you develop that ability through your charisma, what common mistakes are you making that kill your charisma, and what is the most important skill you need to influence people?  What to Listen ForIntroduction – 0:00Why is your ability to influence others a superpower?What are the three paradoxes of charisma?Anti-charismatic statements – 15:15 What are diminishing statements, why do so many of us use them, and how do they kill your charisma?Charming vs Manipulating – 23:14 How can you tell the difference between people using strategies and tactics to build genuine connections and using them to manipulate others to get what they want?How do you say no if you’re a people pleaser and what can you do to get comfortable with saying no?What does it mean to reframe something? – 32:30What is reframing and why is it a powerful tool in communication?What is the worst way to try and get someone to see your point of view?The levels of listening – 47:30What are the 5 levels of listening, and which level is the most important if you’re trying to connect with someone?You have the ability to influence others, and that is a superpower. It’s time to start using your power for good. When you become aware of diminishing statements and how they kill your charisma, you can start reframing your communication in order to build genuine connections with the people around you. With practice, this will become second nature, and you’ll be able to use your newfound superpower for good in all areas of your life.A Word From Our SponsorsDo you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. Join today and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way.Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using our link? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month!Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you? That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere!Resources from this EpisodeInfluence Is Your Superpower: The Science of Winning Hearts, Sparking Change, and Making Good Things Happen By Zoe ChanceZoe Chance’s websiteGive and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success by Adam Grant Check in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube

How to Influence and Persuade People | Zoe Chance

In today’s episode, we cover metabolic health with Dr Philip Ovadia. Dr. Ovadia is a board certified Cardiac Surgeon, founder of Ovadia Heart Health, and the author of Stay Off My Operating Table: A Heart Surgeon’s Metabolic Health Guide to Lose Weight, Prevent Disease, and Feel Your Best Every Day. What you put into your body has a direct impact on your metabolic health, but what is metabolic health, why is it important, and what can you do to support a strong metabolic health so you don’t end up on the operating table or in an early grave? What to Listen ForIntroduction – 0:00What is metabolic health and how does it impact the other areas of your life including mental health?The big medical myths – 13:17 What is the biggest medical myth that is making us more unhealthy every year?Should we be consuming supplements?How did unhealthy food become so normalized that we serve it in hospitals where we’re supposed to go to get better?The 5 metrics of Metabolic Health – 26:09 What metrics should you and your doctor pay attention to if you want to avoid ending up on the operating table?What is the biggest pitfall of intermittent fasting and what can you do to work around it?Nutrition and Metabolic Health – 35:44What should you eat to support your metabolic health and what should you avoid?How do nutrition and your metabolic health affect your mental well being?It’s clear that metabolic health is critical for overall well-being. Unfortunately, unhealthy food has become normalized to the point where we are now serving it in hospitals. If you want to avoid ending up on the operating table, make sure you and your doctor are paying attention to the following metrics: fasting blood sugar, blood pressure, cholesterol levels, and waist circumference. To support your metabolic health, make sure you eat plenty of fiber-rich fruits and vegetables and other whole foods. Avoid processed foods high in sugar and seed oils. By making small changes to your diet, you can improve your metabolic health and reduce your risk of developing chronic diseases like heart disease or diabetes.A Word From Our SponsorsDo you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. Join today and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way.Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using our link? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month!Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you? That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere!Resources from this EpisodeDr Ovadia’s websiteStay Off My Operating Table Podcast hosted by Dr OvadiaStay off My Operating Table: A Heart Surgeon’s Metabolic Health Guide to Lose Weight, Prevent Disease, and Feel Your Best Every Day by Dr OvadiaDr Ovadia on TwitterWhy We Get Fat: And What to Do About It by Gary TaubesCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube

How to Achieve Metabolic Health | Dr. Philip Ovadia

In today’s episode, we cover trust and cooperation with Abbie Maroño. Abbie is the Director of Education at Social-Engineer, is a lecturer in Psychology, has a PhD in Behavior Analysis, was mentored by the body language expert Joe Navarro, and performs academic research specializing in nonverbal communication, trust, and cooperation.Trust is important because our survival depends on our ability to cooperate with the people around us, so why do we place a strong emphasis on competition, what signals should we look for to determine someone’s trustworthiness, and how do we build trust in the first place?What to Listen ForIntroduction – 0:00What is the definition of trust according to modern science?How fast can trust be built and destroyed?The big myth about competition and survival of the fittest – 10:10 What do we get wrong about competition vs cooperation in modern society, and why does this misconception lead to unhappiness and discontent in the workplace?What nonverbal signals should you look for to determine if someone is trustworthy?The trust problem with Zoom and Facetime – 24:52 What 3 common mistakes should you avoid when talking to someone through a video call if you want to build trust and comfort?How does your lower body signal your approachability to the people around you, and how should you be standing if you want to be approachable?How to rebuild trust – 37:48 What is the best way to apologize and rebuild trust after you break it?What are the biggest myths surrounding eye contact and trust?Trust is essential for both our personal and professional lives, but it can be difficult to build and easy to destroy. By understanding the signals we send when it comes to trustworthiness, we can take the necessary steps to build trust or rebuild trust after it’s been broken. And by fostering a cooperative environment, we can create happier relationships and more productive teams. A Word From Our SponsorsDo you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. Join today and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way.Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using our link? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month!Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you? That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere!Resources from this EpisodeAbbie Maroño’s websiteAbbie Maroño on TwitterAbbie Maroño on LinkedInJoe Navarro | Become an Exceptional Communicator by Mastering These 5 TraitsThe Expression of the Emotions in Man and Animals by Charles DarwinCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube

How To Read Body Language | Abbie Maroño

In today’s episode, we cover negotiation with Barry Nalebuff. Barry is a Professor at Yale where he has taught negotiation, innovation, strategy, and game theory for thirty years, and recently authored Split the Pie: A Radical New Way to Negotiate, which is based on his negotiation course.Negotiating can be intimidating if you don’t do it on a regular basis, so what simple tips can you remember to make your next negotiation a win, how do you negotiate with people who are clearly more experienced than you, and what is the best question to ask when negotiating your salary?What to Listen ForIntroduction – 0:00What’s the difference between Split the Pie and Never Split the Difference?How to negotiate with unfair people – 10:55 What can you do to negotiate with people who don’t care about fairness?How can you “be ready to walk away” from a once-in-a-lifetime deal?Dealing with people who don’t see the win-win outcome – 21:10 How do we use empathy to get the other person’s perspective and come up with a deal that satisfies both parties?How much information should you disclose in a negotiation if you’re worried the information might be used against you?How to build your negotiation skills – 35:30 What can you do to develop your negotiation skills?How can you get the other party to see the pie you’re negotiating over?What advice should you avoid when negotiating?Negotiate the salary you deserve – 44:08What questions can you ask so you know how to ask for the best compensation package without losing the offer?It is important to remember that the goal of any negotiation should be a mutually beneficial agreement, aka the pie. Both parties need to feel like they’ve won something and achieved their goals in order for negotiations to be successful. If you can walk into a negotiation with empathy and an understanding of the other person’s perspective, you’re already on your way to building better skills. What have been your biggest challenges when negotiating? Let us know in the comments below. We would love to help!A Word From Our SponsorsDo you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. Join today and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way.Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using our link? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month!Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you? That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere!Resources from this EpisodeSplit the Pie by Barry NalebuffCo-Opetition by Barry NalebuffCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube

The Best Negotiation Tactics (Yale Professor) | Barry Nalebuff | Art of Charm

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